Part I. How do children become narcissists?

Fragments from the forthcoming book “Fragile People: A Secret Door to the World of Narcissists”.

But before I talk about this serious mental phenomenon using the example of the oldest daffodil on earth, I want to introduce you to the main character of this book.

Meet Little Narcissus.

She “came up” quite by accident when I had a need to show people narcissism in a different way than everyone is used to seeing it. One day I was reading my Facebook feed, and I came across an argument about feminatives — feminized words that we are used to. So I jokingly sketched out some of the first stories about Little Narcissus.

One day Little Daffodil wanted to be a trainer. Modestly she asked her girlfriends’ advice.

“If not you, then who?” — they reasonably affirmed.
And it’s true: Little Narcissus got magic pendels without any unnecessary reflection and pity for other people’s limitations.

One day Little Daffodil wanted to become a blogger. And in a little while turned into a very popular expert on women’s happiness. Because she managed to connect her success in personal life with the degree of buttocks pumping so well that no one was able to object to this logic.

One day Little Narcissus wanted to be an author. She had a brilliant idea for her own magazine column. But to implement it as brilliantly as it was conceived, she was not able to. So she simply did not write a single line.
So Daffodil did not become an author. But she had one more reason to kick herself painfully.

One day Little Narcissus wanted to become a photographer. She bought the best equipment and graduated from the most expensive courses. But she never offered her services.

First, she could not impose herself. And secondly, she absolutely had to learn more. Finish five or six refresher courses. Otherwise, she might as well fuck up.

The material on narcissism had already collected a lot, but I had no idea how to present it in a way that interested the reader. The publisher for some reason refused to take my dry scientific calculations, looking like a PhD dissertation.

You see, Julia,” the editor gently interjected, “our readers are interested in narcissism, but not to the extent that they need to read it with a scientific dictionary.

So Little Narcissus came to my tortured by creative turmoil brain very timely. She will help me introduce you to the inner world of the narcissist, as well as his typical behaviors.

Little Narcissus is a multi-faceted image that brings together the experiences and manifestations of deficient narcissists. They actually often feel like little “subhumans” on the inside. It doesn’t depend on gender or age. Men and women in general experience their deficits in the same way. But here our guide will be Little Narcissus, whom we can observe as children as well as adults.