PinnedFragile People: A Secret Door to the World of Narcissists”I look forward to your support on the link. This way I can write more often and more frequently, and my book will be published sooner. https://www.buymeacoffee.com/FragilePeople/ Recently I have seen a powerful surge of interest in the topic of narcissism. It seems that what new can be said about…Narcissism2 min readNarcissism2 min read
Nov 23Narcissistic defenses against close relationshipsIn a relationship, the narcissist expects himself to be able to be in the relationship. But he does not know how, does not know how, and his limitations for this are many. His soul was formed under the pressure of inhibitions to approach and reveal himself. He had to keep…Psychology2 min readPsychology2 min read
Nov 21Fear of close relationshipsWhen I say that inside the narcissistic personality is a vast and lifeless wasteland, it very accurately conveys the feeling of its total loneliness. It feels unnecessary and unimportant. Some narcissists expend a tremendous amount of energy to resist relationships, intimacy, and emotional involvement. Others do this without much difficulty…Psychology2 min readPsychology2 min read
Nov 16Unrealistic expectations in relationshipsThe grandiosity of the most insignificant narcissist is also manifested in the fact that he should become the center of the universe for those who choose him. He should be treated with special sensitivity, attention, care, tenderness, tenderness. He should become an exceptional object of exceptional care and exceptional interest…Psychology3 min readPsychology3 min read
Nov 6Distorted perceptions of relationshipsIn last week’s installment, I wrote a lot about devaluation and how it is a defense technique the narcissistic psyche uses against relationships. If idealization is necessary for the narcissist to let anyone get close to him, then devaluation is necessary to make sure that no one means enough to him. Well…Psychology3 min readPsychology3 min read
Nov 5Lack of reliance on the experience of satisfying relationshipsThe narcissist’s head is full of idealized constructs of how a proper relationship should work. Theories about “real”, “suitable”, “second halves” and other things support the fantasy that something should happen by itself, without effort and solely because two such beautiful people coincided, fit each other like a key to…Relationships4 min readRelationships4 min read
Nov 3Dependence on perfect loveIn one version or another, I have mentioned many times that a narcissist is a person with an inability to love. The deeper the narcissistic pathology, the worse things are with this ability. Individuals with a severe disorder in this area appear to be completely devoid of attachment at a…Psychology3 min readPsychology3 min read
Nov 2The search for belonging in relationships with peopleNarcissus is driven by loneliness. It seems to suit him, and he is quite happy with his independent position. …People3 min readPeople3 min read
Oct 28Communicating with a NarcissistA person who has great difficulty recognizing and appropriating neediness and “creates” guilt and shame in another is very likely a narcissist; on a spectrum from difficile to psychopath. …Narcissism2 min readNarcissism2 min read
Oct 27Deep alienation from peopleI’ve written before that a narcissist can devalue not only specific people, but relationships themselves. And behind this is such a narcissistic way of defense as devaluing the need itself. Actually, at the heart of the narcissistic organization of the psyche is this. “If I can’t get my mother’s love…Relationships3 min readRelationships3 min read
